Jewish Family Service and Children's Center of Clifton-Passaic

PROJECT S.A.R.A.H.Stop Abusive Relationships At Home

What is Domestic Violence

Are You In An Abusive Relationship?


  • Humiliate, embarrass, ridicule or put you down in public or private?

  • Attempt to separate you from your family and friends?

  • Blame you for all problems in the relationship?

  • Control all finances in the household?

  • Deny you access to money or insist that you account for every penny you spend?

  • Prevent you from going to temple if an argument or fight has occurred?

  • Always check up on you to see where you go and what you do?

  • Deny or punish your children when he’s angry with you?

  • Insist on having more children even though there are problems in the relationship?

  • Threaten to hurt your children, family members, or pets?

  • Take away your car or house keys?

  • Use excessive alcohol and/or drugs?

  • Use his bad childhood as an excuse for his violence?

  • Slap, shove, punch or throw objects at you?

  • Force you to have sex or perform unwanted sexual acts?


  • Change your behavior to deal with your partner’s moods and temper?

  • Always worry about what kind of mood your partner will be in?

  • Feel like you are walking on egg shells?

  • Feel like you are going crazy?

  • Fear the consequences of being yourself?

  • Feel isolated or alone and have no one to talk to?

These are all warning signs that a relationship could be abusive and unhealthy.

If you or anyone you know needs help, please call

973-777-7638 x154


Dating Violence


  • My partner always makes me feel bad about myself.
  • My partner humiliates me or puts me down in private and in public.
  • My partner has made rules for me to follow.
  • My partner intimidates me with threats of violence.
  • My partner is extremely jealous.
  • My partner makes me feel guilty about everything I do.
  • My partner’s mood often changes.
  • My partner is very possessive.
  • My partner uses alcohol and/or drugs.
  • My partner drives dangerously.
  • My partner checks where I am at all times.
  • My partner accuses me of being interested in someone else.
  • My partner controls how I dress and what I say.
  • My partner calls me names.
  • My partner is constantly screaming.
  • My partner is loving one moment and angry the next.
  • My partner checks my cell phone.
  • My partner goes through my belongings.
  • My partner shoves, slaps, or throws objects at me.
  • My partner does not let me hang out with my friends and family.
  • My partner tells me how to spend my time.
  • My partner controls my finances.
  • My partner is very manipulative.

You may be a victim of abuse if any of the above statements apply to your relationship. If you or anyone you know needs help, please call Project S.A.R.A.H 973-777-7638 x154